What should I do for my 14th birthday party? (thats NOT a dance party...)?

bbq (hotdogs, hamburgers) horseshoes for the guys, corn-hole game is popular, walmart has a new game you throw two connected to a rope at a pvc stand can't remember the name. it cost around $20. guys love this one. girls are happy with watching and talking. you'll need music. guys need to be occupied and like outside games. maybe batmitton for a girl activity. its inexpensive and would make the girls not feel completely left out. its harder to pick ways to entertain girls outside. they could help with the music. let them bring some of their own and put them in charge of djaying. happy birthday